Why Am I Bored as a Mum? (And Why Changing Spaces Helps)

I posted a video about boredom in parenthood and it hit a nerve. So many parents messaged to say “Yes! I feel this too!” Then @zozojorgo asked a genuine and thought-provoking question:

“But what alleviates your boredom being in another space? I don’t understand being bored at all actually there’s so much to go, do, learn, make.”

It’s a great point. We do live in an age where the internet has handed us access to endless learning and creativity. But here’s the thing: boredom in parenthood isn’t really about having nothing to do. If anything, there’s always something to do: nappies, snacks, cleaning, packing bags, managing meltdowns, wiping things (and people)… again and again.

It’s not boredom from inactivity it’s boredom from monotony.

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Parenthood, especially in the early years, can feel like Groundhog Day. You’re constantly giving physically, emotionally, mentally with very little space for spontaneity or your own inner world. And when your days are spent in the same environment, surrounded by the same needs and routines, it can feel like your brain is quietly going numb. You’re doing so much… and yet you don’t always feel like yourself.

That’s where stepping into another space comes in.

A different space doesn’t fix everything but it shifts something.

It’s not about needing someone else to entertain me. It’s about stepping out of “mum mode” and into a place where I can breathe, think, and see myself again. Whether it’s a café, a park, a library, or just a solo walk changing your physical environment can help shift your mental one too.

Sometimes I don’t need stimulation: I need separation.

Just a break from the constant giving and tending. A new space reminds me I’m still a whole person, not just a schedule-keeper and snack provider.

And if you don’t feel boredom that’s honestly amazing. Some people are deeply content in the small, quiet cycles of life. But for many of us, especially in the thick of motherhood, boredom is code for I miss being mentally alive in a different way.

So if you’re a mum who’s felt this too: bored, disconnected, low-key resentful. Just know you’re not alone. You’re not ungrateful or lazy. You’re human. And sometimes, you just need to walk out the door to remember who you are.